In a recent coaching session, my client opened with the words: “I am enough. I have enough. I do enough.”
She said it sincerely. But the moment it left her lips, I could feel it: the words didn’t land in her body. They floated in the air, disconnected from any sense of deep, cellular truth. I invited her to repeat the phrase. As she did, I was able to name the disconnect.
“It sounds like it’s floating in the logic space,” I told her. “Like something your mind is trying to believe—but your body hasn’t caught up yet.”
She nodded. “Yeah. It feels scripted.”
There it was: the gap between concept and embodiment. She was speaking a truth she wanted to believe—but it wasn’t a truth she had anchored into. Not yet.
This is the threshold where true transformation begins—not in the repetition of affirmations, but in the quiet places where the nervous system still whispers, “You’re not enough.” It’s in these tender spaces that the work deepens—from thinking differently to being differently.
Uncovering the People Pleaser
As we continued to follow the thread, a familiar part made her quiet return—a part my client has come to lovingly know as “Polly the Pleaser.”
This time, she didn’t arrive with noise or urgency. Instead, her presence hovered—gentle, steady, persistent. I received an image of her holding something casually in one hand. Not clinging, not hiding—just holding it the way someone might hold a beloved purse: something well-worn, familiar, maybe even comforting.
She was carrying a belief. One so deeply embedded it had become a part of her muscle memory: I am only worthy when I’m making others happy.
This was not news to us. We’ve visited this part before, and each time she reveals a new layer of her story. But in this moment, what became clear was how tightly she still held that belief—how much it had shaped my client’s interactions, identity, and sense of worth.
This part wasn’t trying to cause harm. She had been formed with the best of intentions—as a shield, a survival strategy, a way to create connection and avoid conflict. Over the years, she had perfected the art of anticipating others’ needs, smoothing out tension, and keeping the peace. All in an unconscious effort to feel safe and loved.
But that effort had become a loop—a habitual pattern driven by a belief that was no longer true. And more than just a loop, it was a vibrational frequency she brought into every room, every conversation, every decision. A frequency that didn’t match the resonance of her Core-Self. It was time to notice that mismatch and lovingly let it go, so she could begin aligning her life with the truth her Soul had always carried.
I reminded her of the truth that she didn’t need to earn her ‘enoughness’ through performance; that was never the job of her Soul, and that her Core-Self was not built on transaction or approval, but on presence, worth, and being.
This misaligned belief belonged only to a part of her, not the whole of her.
And that part—this loyal, over-functioning, ever-trying Pleaser—felt seen once again. Not judged. Not dismissed. Just witnessed. Another layer gently released. Another breath reclaimed.
Meeting the Rebel
As we continued the inner exploration, something subtle shifted. Another part made herself known—not in a dramatic way, but through small clues woven into my client’s words and energy. This part didn’t announce herself. She moved more like a background hum—a steady, quiet vibration under the surface.
Her Inner Rebel.
She had been buried for decades—rarely seen, barely heard. And yet, she had never truly left. This wasn’t the kind of rebel who makes noise to be noticed. She was the kind who slipped into the shadows, lit a cigarette in secret, and whispered to herself, “Fuck you, I’m doing this because I can.”
Her energy wasn’t about creating chaos. It was about reclaiming control. She had been formed in resistance—not to destroy, but to survive. To carve out a sense of autonomy in a life that demanded compliance. And while she didn’t run the show, her vibration is still present—still active in quiet, subversive ways.
This part of her needed to know her story could evolve. Her fierce independence—once a protective strategy, the only way she knew to feel safe and in control—was no longer required in the same way. What once served as armor could now become authenticity. Her power didn’t have to resist or rebel—it could flow in resonance with who she truly is. It could soften into sovereignty.
Her inner rebel had never been the leader in my client’s internal world. She had lingered in the background, almost forgotten. But now she was revealing herself—tenderly, cautiously—and it was time for her to come into coherence.
Neither the Pleaser nor the Rebel were in harmony with the Core-Self, and that was the key.
And meeting them was about inviting them into the rhythm.
The rebel didn’t need healing in the traditional sense. She needed to be noticed, acknowledged, and invited into integration—because her frequency wasn’t aligned with the hum and rhythm of the Core-Self; the version of self from which all true expression, knowing, and creation emerges.
To bring her into coherence wasn’t about correcting her, but harmonizing the internal field so that every part could move in resonance with the truth at the center.
Understanding the Vibrational Gap
This is the tug-of-war many of us feel. One part trying to prove our value. Another resisting the weight of performance. And somewhere beneath it all, our Core-Self remains steady, quiet, and sovereign—waiting to lead.
My client believed she was enough. But she didn’t know it.
The gap wasn’t in her logic. It was in her frequency.
Polly and the Rebel were broadcasting mixed signals. And the universe, like a perfect mirror, was reflecting those vibrations right back.
We don’t manifest what we want. We manifest what we believe we are.
A Shift in Daily Orientation
We followed the pattern of striving all the way to one of the most seemingly innocent rituals of her day: the question she asked herself every morning.
“What do I need to DO today?”
On the surface, it sounds responsible, even productive. But underneath, it was rooted in the same old programming—striving, fixing, performing. It was a question laced with pressure. A low-level hum of “I have to do more in order to be enough.”
We replaced it with a different question—one that reorients the whole system:
“Who am I BEING today?”
That simple shift called her back to herself. It moved her out of transactional living and into intentional embodiment. It shifted the start of her day from proving to presence.
From that grounded state, doing became an extension of being—not a strategy to earn approval, but a natural expression of alignment.
She wasn’t abandoning her ambition. She was reclaiming her agency.
Instead of launching into the day from obligation or urgency, she began attuning to her truth and letting that guide her action. And as she did, her life began to feel less like a list of tasks and more like a creative rhythm. A dance. A conversation with her own becoming.
Integration and Realignment
As the session came to a close, she wasn’t just repeating a mantra—she was beginning to embody a truth. The words that once floated around in her logical space were now being absorbed by the very parts of her that had once resisted them. They weren’t just concepts anymore. They were becoming felt truths—anchoring into the rhythm of her being.
Polly had exhaled once again—the tension she carried for decades started the process of loosening its grip. The Rebel had felt seen, and the Core-Self was humming—not loudly or dramatically, but steadily.
We didn’t get there by analyzing her parts to death. We didn’t strategize our way through the resistance. We got there by listening. By honoring, and by aligning with her core-truth: that her worth doesn’t come from what she produces, how she performs, or who approves.
Her worth is encoded in her beingness of existence.
I am enough. I have enough. I do enough.
Because I exist.
Ready to Begin Your Own Journey of Remembering?
If this exploration resonated with you—if you felt something stir, soften, or speak inside you—you don’t have to walk this path alone.
I offer private coaching designed to help you meet the parts within you, integrate the stories they carry, and return to your Core-Self with clarity, compassion, and power.
It begins with a single step.
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Because your enoughness isn’t something to find. It’s something to remember.